I am amused by the fact I get about 1 message a week from guys. I want to figure a way to say, "don't bother" in a nice manner because it is a waste of their time but I get where they are coming from. Nothing ventured nothing gained. I really don't know of a way to tell them to not bother.
I have not given up on pushing the limits at my office though. I wear scrubs at my office and it gives me a bit of fluidity with my wardrobe. So, over the last year, I have added some rather feminine shoes...There are two pairs actually. The upper pair has a 3/4 inch wedge heel and is very much like a ballet flat at the toe.
The other shoe is still a woman's shoe but definitely a bit less girly.
the second photo shows the more androgynous shoe on with nylons and my fave black pump. I've got a way to go before I can pull that one off at the office.
Anyway, the progression has been coming along. I have been wearing nylons under my pants for years and years....like since grade 3. I started ditching my socks on and off after high school. At my office, I have gone with nylons since I started. The only thing is, I do gauge it to the clientele. If someone is coming in that is not someone I want to share with I pull my socks on or I don't put the hose on. I also use the "they are support socks" excuse if I get questioned by someone who I want to keep in the dark about me wearing nylons.
As for my shoe choices, I change from client to client. For most folks I wear the one on the right but for ones that I feel I am safe to push it (cool person, or a really good sense of humor) I wear the low wedge. For the scary folks, boy shoes.
Since other aspects of my life are really limited on dressing up, I have been trying to figure out ways to go further at the office. My colleague and I decided that I could try yoga pants. Not sexy I know but definitely on the more girly spectrum than basic boy pants. So I have a pair of black and a pair of grey yoga pants that I wear at times. It is interesting because there are a ton of non-crossdresser men that wear them now, so I am safe as far as being accused of wearing "women's" clothing but they are definitely not masculine.
My next goal is to get a top that is longer than the ones I wear. The scrub tops are almost always short. If you get a larger size, they don't get longer, they get wider. I am hope to find one or have one made that goes to my upper thighs. This is making my life fun at the office and I love doing this for some unknown reason.
As for connecting with others, there are two ladies I am hoping to come out to. They both love makeup and we talk about it all the time. I am in the final stages of getting a sense of if they will be cool with this. It looks great.
As for maid stuff, there is a lady I know that has said yes but she needs to finalize it. It looks promising.
